power is energy it is the inherent

capacity to create direct initiate

influence and do something to bring

about what we want power is innate to

all beings in existence that is

something that all of us have and it is

wonderful in and of itself it's about

how that power is used because power can

be used to damage and harm it can also

be used for good in life we all find

ourselves in certain situations where we

feel incapable of creating directing

influencing or doing anything so as to

bring about what we want we feel out of

control disempowered and at the mercy of

others at times like this it is

infuriating to hear people say you've

given away too much of your power

it's an invalidation to the reality of

the powerlessness inherent in the

situations where many of the elements

involved are beyond your control

it also doesn't make automatic sense to

most people

why because you weren't aware of

consciously giving anything away to

anyone this is why it's important to

understand that gaining your power back

is really just about realizing that you

have it so with that much further ado

I'm just gonna jump into it how to

realize and actualize your own personal

power one you have got to get that free

will is an absolute of your existence it

is impossible for someone to take it

away people may be able to take away

choices but they cannot take away choice

itself in essence all somebody can do is

to put intense amounts of pressure on

your freewill in the hopes that if they

do that that you're going to use your

free will to choose to comply they can't

take it away

also you couldn't get rid of your

freewill even if you wanted to

now you may use words like they made me

but that's not the case in these types

of circumstances they were able to put

enough pressure on your freewill that

you used your free will to choose to

comply what this means is that

every single situation you find yourself

in in life you have got to question

where you think the power lies some of

you know and some of you don't know that

I was tortured in my earlier life this

life

I'd say childhood in teen years I don't

mean metaphorical torture I mean actual

literal physical emotional sexual and

mental torture so this is coming from

the mouth of somebody who knows exactly

what it means for someone to put enough

pressure on you that you will choose

because of that amount of pain to comply

this is coming from somebody who knows

that what they will use is your greatest

Achilles heel your greatest source of

weakness as leverage in order to make

you choose we have the tendency of

telling ourselves that someone made us

do something but they didn't in order

for you to grasp this concept completely

I'm gonna get really extreme with you in

the hopes that any situation that falls

short of this is gonna make a lot more

sense and you're gonna be able to access

a lot more personal power out of that

if you look over the course of history

there are so many figures people who

have been put in the situation where

they are forced to choose to comply or

choose death and they chose death that's

still a choice it's still a choice they

were able to make let's talk about

torture shall we myself included

there were many people who were put in

situation's of captivity and physical

torture and pain who found out that even

though somebody took choices away

relative to somebody's physical body

they did not take choices relative to

the mind away so you can still choose

what you do with your thoughts the point

is they still had choice because of this

they cannot control you compared to

these extreme situations you should be

able to see your freewill inherent in

any other situation that involves

somebody putting any less pressure than

that on you to choose what they want you

to choose something most people don't

know is that death in and of itself is a

choice upon coming into this life you

now are two points of perspective your

temporal self and non temporal self

actually both have free will in order

for true death to occur both have to

actually agree they have to find

alignment in death so

often this is what comas are actually

about you may very well find yourself in

situations where somebody uses their

power to put so much pressure on your

freewheel that you will use your free

will to choose to comply and no one can

even fault you for it anyone might

choose that in your particular

circumstance

you have every right to feel it is

incredibly unfair and super that

they're using their power in that way

against you however never confuse that

with losing your free will it's just

putting pressure on it to get into

reality and accept what needs to be

accepted as fast as humanly possible

your only access for personal power is

within reality when we are using our

free will to resist what is we have no

power it is wasted energy we are always

at the affect of others and are fighting

the situation we're in instead of making

immediate adjustments in response to it

for example let's say that somebody

refuses to see and accept that an

economy is collapsing obviously the

choices they make are not going to be

particularly empowered choices are they

those are not going to be choices that

lead them to making the right decisions

given the situation at hand also so you

can understand this particular point

even deeper I want you to imagine you're

playing a chess game spending time not

getting into reality refusing to accept

something is absolutely as pointless as

sitting here playing a chess game and

when somebody makes a move spending your

time denying the fact that they've made

that move refusing to accept the fact

that they've made that move that's the

way to lose a chess game once they make

that move you get in reality what chess

move they just made so you can plan your

counter move what this means is you have

got to surrender to the truth at hand

surrendering to the situation itself is

very different than surrendering to the

truth of this situation itself the

second you are able to surrender to the

truth you are able to make those

decisions about thoughts and emotions

and actions that will put you back in a

space of power relative to creating what

you want in the situation that you're in

to understand more about this you can

watch my video titled how to call

on denial and my video titled

reality 3 when we

feel powerless we become hyper focused

and what we can't do it's almost like

the universe around us starts slamming

doors and windows in our face and we sit

there banging on a door and banging on a

window hoping that whoever closed that

window or door will somehow have mercy

on us and open it up again it's wasted

energy because it's dependent upon

somehow the other person on the other

side deciding is in their best interest

to open them again again it's

displacement of your own personal power

it is far more empowering to look for

whatever windows and doors might be open

alternative doors and windows you might

be able to own your power by trying to

convince them it's in their best

interest to open those doors and windows

this is the power of influence and

persuasion at work but I need you to get

it may just benefit you much more to put

your energy towards looking for other

doors and windows long story short if

you want to own your power you've got to

think about what you can do not about

what you can't do how can you influence

direct initiate do something to bring

about what you want for be true to you

this is such a critical point to get for

this you're gonna have to be super

freakin brutally honest with you no one

can control where you put your energy I

mean no one now energy is focus energy

is actions where you direct those things

can to actually be dictated by someone

outside you all they can do is put

enough pressure on you that you choose

to put your energy towards something

that they've decided to serves them

let's talk about commitment for a minute

to commit to something fully is to put

all of your energy into that thing so

how do you have personal empowerment you

put all of your energy into what's true

to you put it into what matters to you

put it into what's meaningful to you put

it into what's important to you another

way of saying this is that your power is

really about staying as true as you

possibly can to your values and what's

important meaningful to you specifically

this requires power

authenticity to understand more about

authenticity watch my video titled how

to be authentic if I realize that this

is a fractal based universe now if you

really grasp what I just said that is

your key to all the personal empowerment

you could possibly want your lifetime

everything that is outside you in this

universe is replicated inside you in

this universe what does this mean it

means that if you feel powerless to

something on the outside you've got a

little bit of an interpersonal

relationship issue going on on the

inside don't you that can be remedied

every conflict that exists externally is

also a conflict that exists inside you

and everything has a consciousness that

you can access if you turn your

attention toward feeling seeing hearing

and knowing these parts inside you and

towards resolving those internal

conflicts you will no longer feel

powerless

if you feel powerless relative to serial

killers find it integrate the serial

killer in you and the part of you that's

a match to being killed by one if you

feel powerless two viruses find it

integrate the part of you that is a

virus and the part of you that's a match

to being destroyed by a virus

if you feel powerless two narcissists

find it integrate the narcissist within

you and find and integrate the part of

you that is in resistance to the

narcissist within you this time-space

reality you currently call home is a

mirror construct what that means is that

the external reflection changes the

second that whatever's being reflected

which is you changes it will blow your

mind how fast this reflection externally

changes when you remedy your

relationships inside you it will also

blow your mind when you do this work of

recognizing that thing that you're

nervous about in the external on the

inside and working with it how much

empowerment you feel with dealing with

that situation in the external it will

change the entire way you approach these

things that you didn't approach well

before if you want more information on

this watch my video is titled

fragmentation the worldwide disease and

parts work what does parts work and how

to do it if you perceive yourself to

have no power relative to

something in the external on the outside

world find it within you and integrated

six put yourself back in your hands in

order to understand this I want you to

imagine that you're in a deep swimming

pool and there are other people in the

swimming pool with you people who you

perceive to have more power and

therefore see is much larger than you

because you doubt yourself because you

lack the confidence what you do is you

swim to each one of them and with each

one you try to climb on top of them so

they can be responsible for you not

drowning in that moment they hold you in

their hands it's up to them whether you

sink or swim isn't it you are their

responsibility so you get to blame them

and make it their fault if you drown

this absolves you have pressure that's

for damn sure but it also absolves you

of your power see where you are doing

this in your life see where you're

expecting them to be responsible for you

and therefore putting yourself in their

hands and simply hoping they do the

right thing with you for example you

might be doing this if you expect your

abundance to come through a paycheck

from your boss instead of seeing your

own skills as your venue for achieving

abundance you might be doing this if you

expect your doctor to heal you instead

of taking responsibility for your own

health you might be doing this if you

expect other people to make decisions

that affect your life you might be doing

this if you make your partner

responsible for changing in order to be

whatever makes you feel good and

powerlessly sinking into unhappiness in

the relationship you're in instead of

actively taking steps to change the

dynamic or choosing another partner so I

want you to ask yourself some questions

how can things related to your

well-being be in your hands instead

where do you think the power lies in

this situation how can you switch the

situation so that the power lies with

you people who intensely embrace

responsibility are the ones that have

the most power next point words have

incredible power choose those words that

empower you instead of those that

disempower you for example change I

can't - I won't or I choose not to

often when we say I can't what's

happening is that we're recognizing a

limit that doesn't actually inherently

exist or we're failing to recognize and

powerfully own a limit and do something

about it

meaning if that's a limit how do you

accomplish what you want in another way

change he made me into he put so much

pressure on me

that I chose to your words shaped the

way you think about yourself in the

world around you on a deeply

subconscious level this includes

language where you're blaming or making

excuses when you're not owning your

power you will have a plethora of

excuses for why the thing you want has

not come to pass for why it's not

happening for why you can't bring about

what you're wanting pay close attention

to the language you are using to convey

why you made certain decisions or

choices or why something is or isn't

happening the way that you want it to be

happening you might be surprised to

notice just how often you're making

excuses and I don't want you to forget

absolving yourself if responsibility

absolves you have power as well seven

recognize feel and build your confidence

so much about feeling personal power

taking your power back is about feeling

confident and you're not in that

circumstance right now if you do lack

the power what it is is you're

recognizing where you have no confidence

in the situation at hand so I want you

to flip this ask yourself the reverse

what relative to this particular

situation I find myself in do I feel

confidence about how could you increase

your confidence in that situation what

could you learn in order to increase

your confidence relative to the

situation at hand I also want you to

make a list of what you do feel

confident in that has nothing to do with

this particular scenario we have the

tendency of focusing on where our lack

is because we are a growth focused type

of species we always focus on where the

deficiency is not where the let's call

it abundances so one of the steps you

can take to fill your personal power is

to recognize where you actually have

confidence in life if you

nice where you have confidence in life

the areas where you don't won't feel

like they diminish you so much for

example you may feel totally confident

with cooking or being able to work with

someone's emotions or fixing a car or

painting or understanding complex

concepts or cleaning and organizing

resource the confidence that you

currently take for granted and those

things also never forget there was a

point in time where none of us feel

confident with walking but now we feel

so incredibly confident with walking

that none of us would even think to put

it on this list eight get out of the

position of victim I'm not gonna

Gaslight you people are raped people are

murdered people get taken advantage of

every single day these are things that

fit into the category of being

victimized do victims exist hell yeah

but they also don't exist we're all just

the victims of victims why do I say this

people don't hurt someone unless they're

hurt themselves all right so here's the

reality you were the one who was hurt in

the situation you weren't or the rub of

it doesn't change anything this will be

one of the hardest pills you ever

swallow if he were truly victimized I

can tell you this myself

the fact that you were victimized won't

change a thing and it sure as

doesn't mean that the other person who

caused you that pain will ever take

responsibility human beings make a big

mistake they like to look at fault or

blame and assume that responsibility

goes hand in hand with it it doesn't

there is no relationship between

responsibility and fault fault and

responsibility don't go together in a

world where every being has power and

taking responsibility is not an

admission of guilt it is not letting

someone who hurt you off the hook it is

nothing more than a recognition of

personal power it's an act of emotional

self-preservation and empowerment in

other words it isn't a man's fault that

he had an abusive alcoholic father but

even if it is his father's fault this

doesn't mean his father will ever take

responsibility for picking up the pieces

and writing his wrongs and fixing the

son he abused this means if he wants a

life that feels good

the ball is only in his court to pick up

the pieces of himself to find a new

fulfilling relationship and he'll it

doesn't matter if something in your life

is someone else's fault you can't

guarantee they will ever take

responsibility for fixing it this means

the power and therefore responsibility

is in your hands even if it isn't your

fault to change the situation into what

you want it to be instead so I want you

to look at responsibility in this way

imagine that the word was response and

ability essentially that works itself

into the ability to respond do you

always have the ability to respond yes

as the answer to that question so in

what ways can you respond so as to bring

about what you want what happened to you

happened it can't unhappen so the only

question left is what you're gonna do

with it now there is so much shame going

on in the world today about being in

victim mentality that it's very hard now

for people who are genuinely victimized

to actually process through the feelings

that come along with being victimized by

someone to being wronged or being hurt

by them it's almost like it's not even

right to think about it that way that is

not what I am here to say to you today

in fact it is critical if you have been

in this victim role to actually process

through all of the feelings associated

with being in the role of the victim to

take loving care of the part of yourself

who feels as if it's been wronged that

feels as if it's completely powerless to

somebody else you have to do that in

order to heal that means you have to

admit to it in order to heal so I would

love it if we could all get rid of this

shaming that we keep doing to victims

but this is what I'm gonna say to you

once you have processed through those

emotions what are you gonna do with the

situation now the reason that you would

want to stay in that role of the victim

is because it serves you somehow again

there's no shame in this I mean none at

all what it is is that you were really

desperate to convince somebody that

you're innocent and good so that they

decide to take mercy on you and by

taking mercy on you they decide to do

things with their energy to bring you to

what is

good for you so again it's a

displacement of power if they see me as

innocent and they see me as good they

will take responsibility for doing

something that gets me to what I want

that's what victim mentality is about

being in the victim role is an attempt

to put yourself in other people's hands

so face the very hard question what

positive thing do I get or am i trying

to get out of complaining to people or

telling them how badly I was hurt by

someone all there is is a decision to

make about whether you want to maintain

that position or whether a different

approach serves you better how might you

have power in the matter instead 9

wherever possible you need to make sure

that you're in the position of cause

instead of effect we live in a universe

that is based off of a law of cause and

effect no we don't really think about it

being within our power to be on one side

or other side of the equation but we

actually have some here's what I mean by

that you live in a universe where

everything other people do is gonna

affect you everything you do is gonna

affect others however these are two

different positions now all too often we

let ourselves stay in the position of

being at the effect of others to give

you an example of what I mean this is

something that entrepreneurs have

figured out and quickly if you're in the

position of being able to be fired by

someone then you are at the effect of

them so an entrepreneur has essentially

decided to put themselves in the

position of causation I'm the one who

creates all the mess ups in my world a

person in a relationship who simply

blames their partner for the negative

pattern that is occurring within the

relationship is at the effect of their

partner how do they switch into the COS

position by recognizing their role

within that pattern how they themselves

feed into it once they recognize

anything that's theirs in the situation

and change anything that they can based

off of that awareness in the situation

they have switched into the position of

causation so anytime you're in a

situation where you feel as if you are

at

the effect of someone else I want you to

ask yourself this question how could I

adapt to the reality of this situation

so as to switch back into the position

of cause instead of effect 10 follow the

North Star of your desires this fits in

nicely with the previous point that I

made about being true to you desire is

freaking everything remember the

definition of power it's about being

able to bring about what you want desire

is inherent within power commit your

energy to your desires values and what

is meaningful and what is important to

you follow these things like a compass

pointing you do north as I've said

earlier to fully commit to something is

to put all of your energy into something

this means mental emotional and physical

focus and actions your personal power is

about being able to bring about what you

want

this means commitment to what you want

what is meaningful important and what

you value is central to personal power

doing this following the North Star of

your desires makes you a driver of your

life instead of a passenger but I do

have to warn you doing this means you

have to be willing to go in a different

direction than other people are going

doing this might mean if you're a total

rebel going in the same direction

everyone else might be going it's gonna

be just as hard for you if you were

rebellious type of person doing this

means the willingness to stand out from

the crowd doing this means continuing to

point north no matter how much pressure

someone puts on you and that includes

making you wrong for what you want there

are plenty of situations in life where

it is perfectly in alignment for you to

take your power and get in the backseat

and let somebody else's power get in the

front seat in a given situation I'll be

talking more about those types of

situations when it comes to teachings on

relationship there are lots of

situations where it's not even about

power being in the front seat of the

back seat however for the sake of this

episode which is all about you owning

your personal power you've got to get

that it is within your power to choose

whether to give somebody that front seat

or not

that means it's a choice that means you

have power